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Favorite Word – Monday Blog Game
Reading the prompt today on Susan’s blog and the subsequent guest post threw me for a loop. I have refrained from comment about the shooting in Connecticut and I don’t really want to think about it. When I first heard the news, I was shocked. I started to think something was wrong with me. Then today my emotions turned into Mike Tyson and clobbered me. Cheap shot, emotions. Gutshots should be illegal.
Outside of that, selecting a favorite word is kind of a challenge. I can’t say I really have a favorite, although I do drop the f-bomb a lot. I don’t have a catchphrase or repeatable word I use anymore. I know I had two or three in high school and when I’d catch myself doing it all the time, I would force myself to stop using it.
I’ve always prided myself on having an expansive vocabulary and not using a thesaurus in my writing. It seems, though, as I’ve gotten older, my vocabulary is condensed, forgotten, relegated to a shelf in the back of the pantry behind the pickled herring we got in a gift basket one year and beside the packet of instant pudding that tastes like the box. I can’t come up with half a dozen words for another like I used to. When we would edit in high school, I was always the one to catch repetition and suggest a fix. Now I’m lucky if I can come up with a substitute for something simple. Like “he” or “blue”, although my most colorful word substitutions now come through on the interstate during heavy traffic.
I suppose my favorite word would be diversity: both in written word and in life.
When I first transitioned to Columbus, diversity was the biggest selling point. In my little hometown, it was normal to see white, straight, Christian cispeople. Gays and lesbians didn’t happen. Transgendered people were something you heard about in big cities. I only met ONE transperson and he was in my sister’s class. My sister is eleven years younger than me. She went to a bigger high school than I did. Black people were a rare commodity. I only knew ONE black family in our town. There were two Mexican families and they were related. There were no other cultures there other than in the university and most of them stuck to themselves and stayed on campus. Any religious diversity was allowed by ignoring the problem so it would go away.
When I worked at the coffeehouse, I thought I worked in a diverse environment. All the people we hired were white except for one very spunky lady from England whose mother, I believe, was Japanese. She, unfortunately, was as diverse as the staff got.
Then I came to Columbus.
People here are of all races, cultures and countries. There are people of many different faith, practice and religion. They have Unitarian churches here. I walk down the street, awash in a sea of diversity. We are a gay friendly city. One of the gay friendliest cities in the United States. And the best part about all these things?
Nobody cares.
That’s right. Nobody cares when I walk down the street with my girlfriend, holding hands and singing a silly song. Nobody cares if I dress in baggy jeans and an old tee shirt with a ratty ponytail to keep my hair out of my face. Nobody gives a shit that the guy next to them on the bus is black or Mexican or Indian. We’re all one big city and everyone here is doing their own thing.
I’m spoiled. And I know it. Every time I read the news and a Transperson is incorrectly gendered, each time I hear of a gay or lesbian youth being beaten for their sexual preference. Even in my diverse city, black and Mexican workers are turned down for jobs based on the color of their skin because they’re not “permanent”. Because they’re “lazy” or “don’t speak good English”. Even in my diverse city where a young woman with tan skin and black hair is sent back to get another manager because the complaining customer “wants someone who speaks English”.
We have a long way to go to be as diverse as I would like to see us, but at least some places are making progress.
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The “rules” for the Monday Blog Game are simple – Everyone is invited to play along, and I hope you do! Here’s how: Write something about the weekly topic, either in the comments or on your blog (if you write on your own blog, link back or comment to Susan’s blog so they know how to find you!)
Monday Blog Game: Candy
In high school, I had a weekly ritual. Every afternoon after school, I would stop off at the corner convenience store in the little town I passed through on my way home and bought a Snickers bar and a Pepsi. It became a tradition for my best friend. It was enough of a tradition, some of our friends started calling us Snickers and Pepsi. I was active. I danced. I didn’t eat most of my school lunch because it was disgusting. So my snack before I started in on homework got me through until mom called for dinner.
Surprisingly enough, I’d forgotten about it. She found me on facebook and reminded me after her dad bought her a Snickers and a Pepsi the day she missed her class reunion. He buys the tiny bottles of Pepsi and the snack size Snickers bars for her kids. Somehow I think if I showed up with my son to visit, he’d get one as well.
My son developed a taste for Snickers this Halloween. They were left over in the candy bowl when the trick or treaters didn’t show in full force like I’d expected. He’s never been a fan of crunchy candy or anything with nuts. He asked to try one on the promise I would eat it if he didn’t like it. Needless to say, I now have to share my Snickers. The tradition lives on.
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The “rules” for the Monday Blog Game are simple – Everyone is invited to play along, and I hope you do! Here’s how: Write something about the weekly topic, either in the comments or on your blog (if you write on your own blog, link back or comment to Susan’s blog so they know how to find you!)
Surprise!
Although I don’t know the exact path I followed to get here, Susan Spann has a weekly writing prompt on Mondays on her blog. Since I don’t blog very often, I thought perhaps it might be interesting to play along. Therefore, this is my first response. Her prompt was “surprise”.
I have always wanted a surprise party. A group of my friends getting together on my birthday to have cake and ice cream and chit chat about who knows what and possibly play video games. For awhile, when I was between the ages of fourteen and twenty, I got my hopes up every year that someone would have a surprise party. I was surprised every year by disappointment when no one had a party for me. One year I even thought my mom had done something for me because she kept telling me she wasn’t doing anything for me, hadn’t gotten a cake, didn’t intend to…
She meant it, though. She didn’t do anything for me. There was no cake, no ice cream, definitely no surprise party. They were surprised when I showed up at their house for traditional cake and ice cream. She offered to go get me something when I looked crushed, but by that point I was inconsolable.
I gave up on the idea of surprise parties after that, but secretly, somewhere down in the depths of my heart, I still hope for a surprise party every year, that friends I didn’t expect will show up for dinner. The closest I’ve come was last year when a pair of friends came down for a write-in and went with us to dinner. Thanks to their generosity with the sangria, I couldn’t drive home. My sister bought dinner for me. It was a nice dinner.
Maybe someday someone will know. I can’t tell them, you see, because that would be cheating. It won’t be a surprise if I tell anyone, right?
Six Sentence Sunday
“He’ll die if you don’t,” Meredith prodded, sensing his indecision and worry. Every second he hesitated was a precious second lost, the storm around them growing heavy and black. The sky tinted green and red and clouds drew near. She flicked her gaze back to Baby, holding onto a thin thread of patience. She had forced enough onto him, she wanted him to make this choice, but if he hesitated too much longer…
A large black clawed hand shot out with a speed that amazed her and grabbed her by her face.
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Happy Mother’s Day!
My neighborhood is full of little crotch fruit their parents apparently don’t care enough to watch. The little lawn goblins run amok around a couple of street blocks with other neighborhood kids of various ages. When the older kids are out, most of the time they keep the younger ones from killing themselves and each other. When they’re not, however, you have to drive about ten miles an hour because the little heathens will come darting out from the woods beside the collection of houses like the Children of the Corn. They run right out in front of your car and then stand looking at you like you should have been watching for them. How dare you be driving down this public street! A pair of the boys, who can’t be more than ten, like to ride their bikes out and see how fast they have to go to get in front of the car before the cars hit them. In the middle of the street and not at the stop signs. They like to throw rocks at cars. They try to see if they can get them in through my open windows as I drive by. So far they’ve been unsuccessful and only managed to chip the paint on my already pock-marked hood. That earned me stopping and yelling at them to stop doing that before they hit someone in the head with a rock and hurt them. I didn’t go into property damage.
Now they’ve stopped throwing rocks and are instead throwing mulch. I guess they figure that’s softer somehow. At least it’s softer than a baseball.
The kids throw balls across the street, right in front of the car as it’s driving through. They run after it into the street as they’re playing. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve scared the hell out of myself when a football bounced off my hood and I thought I’d accidentally hit one of them. Some of the littlest ones are barely three or four and they could easily dart out in front of my car and I wouldn’t see them until I’d run over them.
At least most of the time they don’t form an unmoving horde of kids in the middle of the street and stand talking while I’m trying to drive through. Most of the time. They’ve done this two or three times before.
One summer, their parents set up bike ramps for them to use so they could teach themselves to use trick bikes. This would be an awesome idea if they would have done it in the driveway or even along the driveway between their house and the next door neighbor’s house. Instead, they set them up in the middle of the street. They ride and flip their bikes, dump themselves across the pavement and pick themselves up to do it again. Then they leave the ramps out in the street where we have to swerve to miss them as we’re coming home from work at ten o’clock at night when it’s dark. My car doesn’t really like going over the double one. Neither did the ramp. I think the car was too heavy for it. I saw it in the trash pile the next morning. At least the ramps were kept picked up out of the street from then on. I don’t think I was the first to run over one, but I apparently was the last. You’d think these kids would learn to stop playing in the street. When my dad told me to go play in traffic when I was little, he didn’t really mean it. I wonder if these kids, like me, took their parents literally. It would explain a lot of their behavior.
Anyway– Happy mother’s day to anyone who has children rather they be your own born children, your raised children, your fur-kids or your nieces and nephews. Happy mother’s day to the fathers who play both roles or, like my son’s father, plays the role of mother better than his biological mother.
Call a mom, rather it be yours or someone else’s and tell them thanks for not killing us when we were children and not freaking out too badly when we almost managed to do it ourselves.